Tuesday, August 26, 2014

We have moved to our nest

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You want to be a Perfect Kenyan Wife?

This is what you need to keep Top of Mind , paper and pen please;

First be open to the fact that Kenyan men are naturally polygamous and will either cheat on you or be brave enough to marry more wives after you (and expect you to understand too), But if you are a second wife or the other woman who became wife no worries, your medicine will soon be served back to you. 


Secondly have babies, as many as you both agree but be sure any signs of weight gain or hanging bellies and you will be (refer to number one). This includes Perky boobs (saa sita), no long boobs, or samosa boobs please. What on earth do you expect him to do with boobs that have been suckled by his babies to shapelessness? they don't turn him on!!


Third please know that you will never be a great career woman, great wife and great mother , he will always remember the house girl cooked his meal :( or say you are talking to him like one of your employees or staff. Yeap!! Or if a House wife he will always discuss with his colleagues (professional women in short skirts, high heels and perfectly long manicured tips) How he wishes he had help, he would be so so much further in personal assets development .. Soon, they will have a connection. She speaks his language, earns like him, understands professional challenges, is dressed the part. Connection. Please, he will never respect your hustle, No way. The comment would always be, it is not consistent or stable enough for any decent anything. He still has to do everything for you. So Girlfriend, never expect any respect on any front because of your "Greatness" .Its a crutch.

Fourth Be supportive and appreciative. Yes he will ascend the ladder employed or in business, he will move up to middle class or even higher and of course He will spend on you and on his children, but But dear lady he will expect you to not question his ever diminishing family values. In fact he will say "you never appreciate all i do" "you just focus on my mistakes" "I thought we talked about that and i said am sorry" Never mind that this will happen on Wednesday and by Friday he is back to it.Smile and say Thank you when he gives you salon money for your Brazilian weave.


Fifth Note this special species; If he started out drinking his beer every Friday well be prepared. It will now be Friday, Saturday and poor you, you may be seeing the guy on Monday. He will crush car after car after car into static and moving targets. He will have many nights of sleeping in the car in the parking lot (never mind that the watchmen have turned these escapades to hilarious night time drive by movies). Tuck away your embarrassment. When the neighbors security calls you that he went into their gate instead and crushed into their car please just wake up at 3.30 am, wrap your maasai shuka on you and go collect him as you promise to sort it out with the said neighbor when the sun is out. Oooh, tip the watchman for helping you carry him to the house, and hopefully his silence. 


Sixth The church is not spared either wife, He is your husband and we all saw how pure white the wedding was. But Darling, He is Gods property. Expect him to have deep sharing moments with distraught wives over 1,2,3,4,5 above. Then endless coffee meetings, some prayer sessions here and there and Boom! Midnight distress calls. Hah!! you thought he is a good man, well a good man is hard to find and we cannot hoard him. Share.


Seventh is Financial Fidelity. As A perfect Kenyan wife remember to declare your wealth every month and how you spend your money, you do not want to be accused of stashing. Yes, even your hustle income. But do not expect the same from him after all (Fourth) 


Eighth. The mother of it all is the S3x. Give guuurrrl give it! Flip It! Turn It! Grind it! Lick it! Suck it! Like it has "On Sale" tag on it. Then as you shower remember the (First).


Now Go be perfect Wife. Kenyan men demand no less than...


Monday, August 25, 2014

The Cosby Rant, Valid.


They're standing on the corner and they can't speak English.
I can't even talk the way these people talk:
Why you ain't, 
Where you is,
What he drive,
Where he stay,
Where he work,
Who you be...
And I blamed the kid until I heard the mother talk.
And then I heard the father talk.
Everybody knows it's important to speak English except these knuckleheads. You can't be a doctor with that kind of crap coming out of your mouth.
In fact you will never get any kind of job making a decent living.

People marched and were hit in the face with rocks to get an Education, and now we've got these knuckleheads walking around.
The lower economic people are not holding up their end in this deal.
These people are not parenting. They are buying things for kids.
$500 sneakers for what?
And they won't spend $200 for Hooked on Phonics.

I am talking about these people who cry when their son is standing there in an orange suit.
Where were you when he was 2?
Where were you when he was 12?
Where were you when he was 18 and how come you didn't know that he had a pistol?
And where is the father? Or who is his father?
People putting their clothes on backward:
Isn't that a sign of something gone wrong?
People with their hats on backward, pants down around the crack, isn't that a sign of something?

Isn't it a sign of something when she has her dress all the way up and got all type of needles [piercing] going through her body?
What part of Africa did this come from??
We are not Africans. Those people are not Africans; they don't know a thing about Africa .....
I say this all of the time. It would be like white people saying they are European-American. That is totally stupid.
I was born here, and so were my parents and grand parents and, very likely my great grandparents. I don't have any connection to Africa, no more than white Americans have to Germany , Scotland , England , Ireland , or the Netherlands . The same applies to 99 percent of all the black Americans as regards to Africa . So stop, already! ! !
With names like Shaniqua, Taliqua and Mohammed and all of that crap ......... And all of them are in jail.
Brown or black versus the Board of Education is no longer the white person's problem.
We have got to take the neighborhood back.
People used to be ashamed. Today a woman has eight children with eight different 'husbands' -- or men or whatever you call them now.
We have millionaire football players who cannot read.
We have million-dollar basketball players who can't write two paragraphs. We, as black folks have to do a better job.
Someone working at Wal-Mart with seven kids, you are hurting us.
We have to start holding each other to a higher standard..
We cannot blame the white people any longer.'
~Dr.. William Henry 'Bill' Cosby, Jr., Ed..D.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Crazy Bitch?

Husbands here is a mwakenya for you; Those wives you claim are craaaazy, well they did not start of like that right? They were warm, huggy, cuddly pretty pussy cats you just loved talking to for hours on end. But like genius and insanity there is a small doze of a bitch in every female. By your actions, inactions , words, silence, you nurture this beast. You feed them and pet the bitch within every time you break her trust or relegate her to something you use for your self or for baby making and baby caring. Then of course you will apologize... you know y'all so great at that
(By the way you cannot make it alright with your tool, its not really a pacifier). But the beast has grown one more tooth for every hurt, every tear, every fight...every silent treatment. Every resentment, every contempt...
Do not lie to yourself, that ice cold, baby focused, chama and weddings spendthrift you have, who does not notice whether you come or go, you created them.You wonder why she laughs endlessly while on a call and always texting and whatsaaping yet she has not uttered to you a word for past 3 days? Oh and they cheat on you too because again Nature Abhors a vacuum.
She is Evidence of who you really are as a man by her character. Your wife is your handiwork, your product, your workmanship. You feel like you deserve to be king well look at your "kingdom"

The Sexy Male Man

I still Insist, There is something absolutely sexxay about a man who comes home 
(from hunting) with raw meat (kutoka Butchery ama kuku kutoka Ushago) smelling of sweat and blood (from hardwork), ripped muscles tingling (stick to the gym, hakuna fat hunters, they will be eaten by Lions in CBD) . ohhh sema Karibu Nyumbani mzee wangu 
(Babes is no name to call a hunter ) and lifts you shoulder high into some paradise ama sunset 
(replace with any travel destination) to claim you as his !!! Now that is Sexaay!!!! 

Sunday afternoon Fantasies

Our " Missionary" is the Best though

 Cheers to all the good men out there, Husbands who stay despite the hormones and being financially exploited (my money is mine but yours is ours). 
Hats off for all the times you choose to keep quiet when we are running our mouths or retreated into the silent treatment. 
Hugs and kisses for every time you watch porn and still have to act like our missionary is the best thing ever. We love you for suffering through the diaper changes and errands in the middle of the night. 
Cheers for every sob female story you have heard of Men being dogs and working so hard to listen or be seen to be listening. 
Thank you for putting up with our sisters and some even "the girls" always harassing you 
(Maybe you enjoy it  ). Good men may not be easy to find, Men generally may not stay, But because you have Mad Respect.

Thank You

I am thankful. 
So thankful. 

For Every little thing in my life
For Every person who walks across my path
For Every assignment that passes through my hands
For Every heart I hold in love
For Every Life that's in my charge
I am thankful for the grace and the favor
I am thankful for the strength everyday

Thank you.