The Richest Man (Woman) (In Babylon & could be You)

FIRST CURE: Start thy purse to fattening.
The stream of money that flows into and out of one's life is immense. Wealth and security can be secured from it, but only if portions of that stream are diverted. Time and again, the book's "enlightened" characters stress saving at least ten percent of your income every month, without fail. Accomplish this by setting aside that ten percent before all other expenses are considered.
"But when I began to take out from my purse but nine parts of the ten I put in," Arkad said, "it began to fatten. So will thine."

SECOND CURE: Control thy expenditures.
The amount of money a person makes is important, but it is secondary to the degree to which that person controls his expenses. Budget and plan your expenses earnestly. Demand value for the dollars you spend.
"That what each of us calls our 'necessary expenses' will always grow to equal our incomes unless we protest to the contrary," Arkad stated. "Confuse not the necessary expenses with thy desires."

THIRD CURE: Make thy gold multiply.
Three words: interest, interest, interest. Take care to see that all saved monies are kept in the highest-yield interest-bearing accounts available. If you have the experience and education to do so, invest a portion of your money by other means, always striving to create a reasonable risk/reward ratio.
"A man's wealth is not in the coins he carries in his purse; it is the income he buildeth. That is what thou desireth: an income that continueth to come whether thou work or travel."

FOURTH CURE: Guard thy treasures from loss.
Forget about gunning for those astronomical returns promised by market gurus and their "hot tips." And don't bother with those wacky startup businesses you see boxed in the classified ads, either. If you're going to take risks and invest your money, then make sure you have the education to know how to guard and protect your assets. Only you can keep your best interests at the forefront. Your savings control your future; treat them like it.
"The first sound principle of investment is security for thy principal. The penalty of risk is probable loss. Study carefully, before parting with thy treasure, each assurance that it may be safely reclaimed. Be not misled by thine own desires to make wealth rapidly."

FIFTH CURE: Make of thy dwelling a profitable investment.
In most cases, home ownership — even when financing is included — is preferable to renting. At some point, the mortgage payments will end, and ownership will be achieved. There is no ownership for the renter ... ever.
"Thus come many blessings to the man who owneth his own house. And greatly will it reduce his cost of living, making available more of his earnings for pleasures and the gratification of his desires."

SIXTH CURE: Insure a future income.
The future cannot be known, but preparations can be taken to assure a certain level of financial safety. Whether this is done via a strict savings plan, outside insurance, or a combination of both, one must be careful to provide for the wellness of himself and his loved ones in later years. Disability and untimely death have caught and ruined families and their finances since time immemorial.
"No man can afford not to insure a treasure for his old age and the protection of his family, no matter how prosperous his business and investments may be."

SEVENTH CURE: Increase thy ability to earn.
Last among Clason's "cures" is action taken to increase one's earnings. Acquire education, experience, and confidence in yourself, and use these things to improve your income. You might begin a second, part-time job, or simply freelance your abilities in your spare time. Whatever you do, never underestimate the opportunity to turn a favorite hobby or skill (woodworking, photography, home decorating, cooking, etc.) into extra income.

"The more of wisdom we know, the more we may earn. The man who seeks to learn more of his craft shall be richly rewarded. Cultivate thy own powers, study and become wiser, become more skillful, and act as to respect thyself."

Long Distance Love Traps

I know,I know Long distance marriages are mostly not a very easy thing. But If you have a marriage and family you value, honey you are losing more than anything you are gaining. Trust me. 
That time and distance spent from your spouse and children you can never recover. Ask Mandela.
The vacuum you leave will be filled with something or someone. This something or someone grows into your spouses head ,body and heart.
When you are back for a week or two or a weekend everyone is tiptoeing in the name of love around each other. Doing dinners and shopping, small talk nothing deep that might result into an argument . Not a problem but my view is;
Relationships grow when it stops being about I can't discuss that and moves to let's fight this out because I need you to hear me and or you hurt me. Honest open non kuvumilia just because after all you are supposed to have intensely missed each other.
It's about the little things like showering forever and he is getting late for work or putting toilet seat up or down. Or him eating your food till it gets boring and you have to up your creativity or buy take out.
It's about "I have a headache" , you know when he is around for only 2 weeks or a weekend you Have to put out (there is just so much menses a woman can hide behind)
Marriage even in this digital era cannot be numerous evening phone calls (someone is feeling inconvenienced and a tad irritated by the mandatory conversations) Or whatsapps.
Thing is when you teach people how to live without you, they learn, eventually they learn. And they adapt. They cannot keep unlearning every time you are around for a quickie marriage.
But the lack of an honest connection is what destroys. There is none. No connection intellectual , emotional, physical , financial. No harmony. No rhythm. What I call the dance.

I submit to married couples staying apart in the name of work ; that shit nurtures the little independent demons in your spouses. They come into themselves without you. And soon you are a bills machine and an inconvenience to her plans and space.
For me hata Nakuru haiwes make it. Nairobi county is already too much distance with foxholes.

Your Honest Sincere friend
Mama Mona Na Nelly
Bibi ya Ham.